I emailed him back asking if he wanted Sunday night or Monday night instead of Tuesday? I don't mind switching for a reason like today, but also don't want to have to switch around all the time like he's doing. It's stressful for me and prob. the kids, esp. s15. And yeah, he's such a slimeball. If he was a regular normal person just wanting to be with the kids that would be cool, but he spends his time at work and running, it's just like he wants the day to reduce his child support.
He also asked me if I could email S15's schoolwork. He has a ton of assignments to catch up on b/c of the move and the internet being down. I emailed him no, he has to have the lessons and use diff. links, and do projects. Not like the kind of stuff we had when we were in high school. I find myself disliking him more each day. Is that a good thing or not? I pray to be loving and forgiving to all including H and I pray for him every night to be healthy and happy, but it's hard sometimes.... Karen
I'd keep everything the same until the final proceedings. He probably wants to show you as not the stable one (the one who has homeschooled and been home with him, etc.) anymore. I'm distrustful and I think he is building a case that things are different now so the kids situation should be different. He probably wanted the work so that he could have samples of the schoolwork to rip apart educationally or something.
OK, I'm not trusting him either, but the schoolwork isn't an issue. It's the Florida Virtual Online school, which is public school in our state, and its supposed to be the best virtual public school in the nation. That wouldn't help him I don't think.
He does want an extra day this weekend, but it is a holiday weekend, so I emailed yes. But since he added a night tonight, & is changing Friday to Sunday, I told him I hope that Tues. we can go back to the regular schedule as the kids' therapist said it's better for them to have a regular schedule, unless there's an emergency or something that comes up.If he asks for changes again in the next week or 2, then I guess I'll talk to the L about it. I just can't wait for the D to be over at this point. It should be a lot less stress!!!
Well, I guess OW and H are back together again. H shaved his scraggy beard recently, and D9 is talking about her quite a bit. The party they went to recently with OW, and she came home with a scrapbooking kit OW gave her yesterday. I asked her not to bring over any more gifts from OW and that she needs to bring that back to her dads. She needs to leave those gifts at her dad's house I told her. I mean I think if I had a boyfriend (well I wouldn't b/c I'm married but ywim) I wouldn't be tacky enough to have OM's gifts going to his house. Like they don't have common sense or something. I still find enjoyment in knowing 2 such losers found each other--maybe they are perfect for each other if OW ever decides to b/c a reformed skank.
And then btw, another gift for D9 and I asked if she gave S15 anything. No. And then I'm a little peeved over that. And that's why no contact is good-b/c these people are nutty!!! Karen
Went to church today and then dropped off the kids at lunch (at our halfway point). Worked on the old house a little, and am about to go back and do some more. We have too much stuff! I'm hoping the kids will let me donate the rest.
I had the kids load up their packs and stuff and I asked D9 to take back her scrapbook kit stuff to H's(gift from the OW). I said I wasn't upset, but daddy's girlfriend's stuff needs to stay at daddy's. I do not want his gf's stuff in my house. I know I'm maybe being a witch about that, but I just feel that's wrong and a boundary for me. I just think if I had a bf, I certainly wouldn't want or expect H to have a bunch of bf's gifts around his place. It's common sense or something to me.
I miss my kids. The one part I really hate about this. Karen
Are you feeling any better? I tried to call and it went right to voice mail. I don't even think it rang!! Drop a line and let me know you are good or bad or somewhere in between.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'm ok. I went to the dr. yesterday and had to turn my cell phone off and forgot to turn it back on. I'm taking off work today and drinking lots of water. They said it's a kidney stone, and that and ibuprofen is all I can do. Who knew that my just drinking tea nonstop was bad--I'm from the South! Water is so gross!
So yesterday H emails me about 10 times (seemed like 20) trying to set up a new place to meet halfway. He didn't know the name of the store though, and I didn't know where it was. He was being such a jerk. I finally emailed and said listen I'm in pain and don't want to mess with this. Meet me at the old spot or my house, take your pick. Am I being a witch, don't really want to be that, but sometimes I wish he would just go away and I wouldn't have to deal with him!!! Karen
I've had two kidney stones in my past. First one was in '97; the last one was in 2000 and it was so bad that I blacked out under the pain, scaring the living daylights out of my then-pregnant xW. They rushed me to the ER. The most pain I've ever had to try to endure. (Afterwhich I finally got a clue and began drinking water with religious frequency!)
Hang in there, lady. If you can work it out of your system, that would be ideal. The second one I had to go through lithotripsy.
Karen, my wife had a kidney stone several years ago. They say it's more painful than giving birth, or a gunshot wound. When I told her that, she said "Well I can't vouch for the gunshot wound part, but after giving birth (vaginally, and all were large babies!) to four children, I will tell you that they're RIGHT!"
