Intellectually, I want to be where you are, but I am fighting some of the same demons Puppy is (my wife had PA). I know I tell myself that the deceit is what's harder to forgive and forget (which would put an EA and PA more or less on equal footing), but the psychological underpinnings of a PA often seem to overwhelm where I want to be... If that makes any sense.
Trust me guys, only us MEN make this distinction. To most women, the long-term (not one-night stand) EMOTIONAL AFFAIR is a much, much stronger "hit" emotionally for them.
Put more simply, the average woman says "I could have handled you having a one-night stand, or even telling me it was 'just sex' with her, but -- OH MY GOD -- you've told her EVERYTHING about us, and you think you're IN LOVE with her????" -- and is devastated.
Whereas the average man says, "Well, at least she didn't sleep with him."
There is no such thing as "only" an EA to a woman.
