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[ernest88]

OMG! You are right.

well it's what i think..it may not be right..

It is a pattern and I missed it.

you don't know batchitt crazy like I know batchitt crazy

In my stupid, bass ackward mind I didn't catch it.

I don't really believe that..I think that is a Venus thing..IMO..i think women are caring and nuturing which leads to being played sometimes..

So, in other words, now I've stuck myself in a situation I have no graceful way of exiting. How do I set boundaries now? It feels too late for that. I have to just let him keep sponging off me until he gets a better deal and leaves again still with no support for his son.

I don't think that is necessarily correct either..i think you two sit down, have a talk..set a date..

you would think I would have learned a long time ago to never offer kindness to him. My empathetic ways will kill me someday.

nah..it's not the kindness thing..it's learning to not let him take advantage of you...he's done it before and he will continue to try at times...

It's probably from my complete lack of self-respect and self-esteem. That has to be why I never see what I'm doing as harmful to myself. Grrrrr.....there is no way to stop this is there? Good grief!

ahhh..you know better..I can't even address that..as I say occasionally..."save the drama for your momma" . you've grown lots and lots...you have patterns also from the M..you have to relearn how to deal with Gabe..from an outsider's looking in viewpoint..

I realized upon reading that I had never had any of those things and have no idea what that would even look like. That's just sad! My life was just what it was...ho hum. Existing. It still is. I think to myself "what do I want to do? How do I want to live my life? What will make me feel happy?" When I think about that I draw a total blank. I have no idea. The sad fact is, I don't think I've ever been completely happy and fulfilled so I have no idea what it would take to get there. My fear is that I'll never know what that is because I have no vision. YUCK!

nah..I look at all that as a fun and exciting thing to figure out....you just need time to figure things out...for things to slow so you'll have time to figure things out...

patterns, patterns, patterns......so If you called Gabe out..what do you think he would do?? Best guess?? Would he guilt you?? Lie?? Say your cousin lied? Say he wanted to reconcile??

I have one more question...you two had a conversation the other day..maybe by text or on the phone, I can't remember...but why would he call you.."baby"? Why would you call an ex wife..."baby"???

Listen..protect yourself and Marc..protect your heart, know what you want, set boundaries...