Um yeah, I'd like to go work in a factory over my summer vacation. Hasn't the idiot ever heard of child labor laws?! Your D is only 13! I'm with you, I would fight her going tooth and nail.
Dang! He sure has lost the plot, but that was some time ago, I think!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Dang! He sure has lost the plot, but that was some time ago, I think
Yep I actually think that 'plot' is turning into hectares
I'm really proud of myself actually b/c only a few weeks ago I would have risen to the bait immediately and either phoned him or contacted my L (or both). I did think about both those things but then decided I would wait and see what actually happens. As I haven't heard a dicky bird from his L since the beginning of April and given his previous MO this was probably meant to be the catalyst to set off another load of MLC bullshit. Well H that button don't work anymore.
I've just been on the phone to D18. Originally I had rang her and as we were talking about D13s bday at the weekend I told her about the proposed trip to Czech Republic. She too thinks H has lost the plot. I didn't stay on long as she was revising for her last exam. However she rang me back a few mins later to say she had made arrangements with her sister about seeing each other on Saturday. She said she raised the issue of the aforementioned trip and D13 sounded pretty fed up about it all. Apparently D18 said 'sounds to me like Dad has completely lost the plot and he just wants to be rid of you for a few weeks' D13 replied that this was exactly the thought that her and S16 had had.
I feel karma beginning to take shape. I've waited, not always patiently, but now hopefully the two younger kids are starting to see for themselves the exact nature of the R H wants to have with them and it doesn't match up to thier expectations.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
A, Sit quietly and patiently, for the "plot" is about to be exposed all on it's own and then there will be destruction in the making. Your xh has really lost his mind to even consider your children as slave labor and putting them in a work environment such as that. I think he's the one that should step up to the plate and go work in a factory if he's that all hyped up about the experience. Why it would make a wonderful vacation of all types of learning experiences for him and the ow. Can you just see that?
I think you are doing the right thing be waiting this one out. It's not going to go very far w/the children and you know what? I look for a mutiny by the children and there is no one to blame but himself and the ow.
He lost the "plot" a long time ago and appears to be completely lost these days. What a nut case.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He really has lost it. If you really think your X just planted the factory thing just to provoke you, then you are right to keep your head down. You know how he operates better than anyone. What a jerk. The kids are starting to wise up.
I am glad your D18 was the one enquiring what's happening with her siblings. Keeps it out of your sphere. I cannot imagine any kid wanting to work in some Czech factory for their holidays. I would think a beach in Spain would be better, if that were a possibility. Oi!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Last night when I really needed to vent this site was down.
Yesterday lunchtime I got a call from the Child Support Agency. Just as I predicted H has gone through with his threat to claim child maintenance for S16 b/c I won't give him more money for the house. So as of yesterday I now have to pay £260 a month to H for S16. This is despite the fact that my L told me that the agreement she and H's L drew up was legally binding. The CSA told me that unless that agreement had been supbject to a court order they had powers to over rule it. To cap it all I have no right of appeal. When H was paying money for all 3 kids he gave me £343 a month. It wasn't what he should have been paying but foolishly I did not go down the same track as he now has done and they don't backdate claims. To add insult to injury when I tried to phone my L about this she was on holiday AGAIN. As a self employed single hander she seems to take all school holidays off. That's great for her kids but not so great for me when I need help. I've more or less made the decision that come Monday I will be changing my L to one who a) specialises in family law (she is just a generalist) and b) is a group of Ls so that if the one who is dealing with my case is not there someone else should be available to give me advice when I need it.
I got very drunk last night (by myself as friends weren't available either). Today it is youngest Ds 14th bday. I look a mess. I feel a mess and I'm headed for financial ruin through no fault of my own.
I have to be honest and say I bitterly regret taking the advice given when I first came here about not being the one to file. If I had I wouldn't be in this position now.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
