Eclipse...

[Jimbo]

Jimbo,

Although I don't think I have replied to you before, I have following your sitch for quite some time.

Hi Daybreak- Thanks for stopping by (a lot, it seems ) and posting.

Your suspicions concerning Facebook and W using it as a way to spy on you is eerie. I found out last year that my W was on there as well through some mutual friends who encouraged me to go on there as well. When I signed up for my account, the first thing I did was to block W so she could not easily see anything related to me. Although she does regularly use the computer I normally use at home, I periodically change my password so it keeps her guessing.

I had considered the whole concept of blocking W, but then it gets into a whole security issue. If she, personally, is blocked, she just has to go over to a friend's place and casually suggest that they could log on to the friends FB account, and voila...no longer blocked. Which means I would have to block everyone from seeing me, which kind of defeats the purpose. And besides, I'm sure that our friends, not understanding that she's in an MLC and wanting to be as helpful as possible, will be sure to tell her anything they might hear from or about me if it comes up. In the grand scheme of things, I'm not sure it's worth it. Loose lips sink ships, don'cha know? ....

A couple of weeks ago I had a friend request show up on FB from a friend of W's who I haven't talked to in quite a number of years. I haven't acted on the friend request but I will likely ignore it.

My friend in Hampton Roads has been bugging me for a while to connect with him on FB. I was seriously considering it until he sent W a friend request the night I was visiting when he had pulled up her profile. She later accepted. So much for that grand plan....

Then again, you might want to accept it...see below.

It does appear that your W is trying to find out intel from your friends that she has contacted on FB. Now what are you going to do with this newfound knowledge?

Don't know that there's anything TO do, per se. Forewarned is forearmed. It's nice to know that, despite her still pursuing the D, she IS still curious enough about me to try to snoop, which finally shows me some sort of indication that she still has some sort of interest in me, contrary to the front she's been displaying for so long.

I don't know if you are familiar with Sun Tsu's, "Art of War" or not, but it is a great read for life in general. One of its core principals is obtaining your objectives with a minimum of bloodshed- to "win without fighting" being best of all. So, in this respect, it's not so much about war as it is about avoiding war. Very zen.

Anyway, you can apply a lot of the precepts to most anything in life- including MLCs, it would seem. So, to answer your question, I will take a page from a section of this master work (the one regarding the use of spies) and apply it here.

Perhaps the best thing about all of this is that SHE doesn't know that I know about her little homemade "spy network". That means that I have my own little ready made "propaganda bureau" should I ever need it. Not that I can see that I would ever need it in the future, but you never know- maybe one day, when the time is right, I'll let a little info slip out on "JNN" and see what happens.

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