Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

In the big scheme of things, she expressed unhappiness in our marriage that I did not do anything about a long time ago, before she even knew possible OM. A year ago she was pretty close to filing, but I talked her out of it. This past Dec she was again, and I talked her out of it. Now, this spring yes the actions and the EA overlap, but her unhappiness is old.

Heck, that is what makes this so hard! I "get it" now, and I see that she has been trying to get me to change and wanting to save the marriage for years, and I was a huge jerk about it. Now I am ready, but she is done.