Venting time...so I left a voicemail for H yesterday asking him if was going to pick up son and to please let me know, this is what I said and will be important later.
I was off yesterday, am sitting watching TV when H gets there, he needs to get the carseat before he picks up son, comes in the house to wear I'm sitting and yells "what are you doing here" I say watching TV, he again yells "what are you doing here" I live here I say, he yells it again "what are you doing here" I say I had the day off. He says then why did you leave me that stupid ass message or something like that can't remember the exact words asking me to pick up son when you're here. I said the message said to call me, he says "no it didn't." I most certainly did leave the message above saying to call me. He just hears what he wants to hear. I told him to quit yelling at me, also.
Then he wanted to know what I did all day, I said stuff and he asked again what I did all day? Why is it any of his business and this is exactly what he used to say every time I take a day off. I have about five weeks of vacation each year, he has none, if he takes time off he doesn't get paid, so he really resents the fact that I have all this vacation and I "waste it." He also knows he's going to take a vacation every year to hunt somewhere, but he NEVER plans for it!! He could save some money for his trip, but NO he just goes anyway and then complains that he doesn't have any money and I had to figure out how to pay bills.
So then I say I'll pick up son, he says I'm over here now I'll get him. He then asked if I had called a plumber?! He told me when he left on Tuesday that he would be back Thurs, last night, to fix the faucett. Before he said that he was coming back he did tell me to call a plumber, but then said he'd be back so I didn't need to call the plumber, did I? And, he started the project, he was going to finish it, I wasn't going to call the plumber. Earlier this week I had made arrangements with my sister for my BIL to come on Saturday and do the job for me anyway, but H started it on his own Tues. night so I thought let him do it.
So he was going to come over anyway to fix the faucett, whether he had to pick S up or not...this is what used to push me to the limit with him, his mixed messages and saying one thing and doing another and then blaming it on me because what I said wasn't what he heard.
When he pulled the thing about the voicemail, I started thinking maybe he was right about the message I had left, but he WASN'T! What he heard was totally different than what I said..is this a control thing?
Anyway, he goes to pick up son, I go get gas to finish my lawnmowing. I'm walking out the door he says "where are you going?!! and I say to get gas and then I say as I'm walking out the door "you're so mean and nasty to me" I don't know if he heard it or not.
H comes back with S and tools to fix the faucett. As he's working he says to me at one point "what makes you think I was yelling at you" to which I say oh that's right you're voice decibel is about two points higher than most people, I forget that sometimes. He said you mean like our S's? Son has a very loud voice and I said yes.
He does ask for my help with the faucett, "there I did this now you can do this" and once he was finished he said there no you can put all the cleaning stuff back. He then plays with S for a little bit and goes into the kitchen and comes to me in the living room and says aren't you going to put that stuff back? I said yes, but what's the hurry? I mean really it didn't need to be put away that minute, it was sitting there for two days. He then said it again to which I replied playfully "make me" He came over and grabbed my foot to try to pull me out of the chair.
He also wanted to know why I was mowing the grass and cleaning? I said I didn't want to have to do it this weekend, he then wanted to know if I was having company and who it was? I didn't answer.
So he getting ready to put S to bed and I go to bed, too. I've been tired the last couple of nights. He comes in rips the covers off and says you're going to bed too!! Then throws the covers back on and trys to slam the bedroom door and goes to lay with son. He then got up and left.
Sorry for how long this is, but I have to put all this craziness down. He goes back and forth and never means what he says ever!!
What is going on here anyway? I pull back and he pulls back. We were getting close and then I pull back and he pulls back...maybe I'll try this again for another week and see where it goes. He hasn't been calling me everyday like he used to either.
He came over and grabbed my foot to try to pull me out of the chair. 
He then got up and left.
