I'm loving this discussion. Who knew that my bizarre sitch would lead to such deep, philosophical talk. ;\)

Mike, I think the way I would define friendship in this particular case would be this. We can be friendly, kind, considerate, and share innocuous information. I'm not talking a deep friendship here, just friendly. More than civil, less than close. Does that make sense? I know it's weird. You're right in the sense that a friend wouldn't do what they have done to us. However, in forgiving I also had to make a decision to harbor pain in my heart forever or let it go for my own good. That didn't mean that I had to let go of the history of our R and all the good we did have. Could I trust him to not destroy me again in a R or M? NO! I'm not stupid. I can be compassionate, considerate, and kind. That is what I choose to model for my son. It makes him happy to have his dad nearby.

Now....on another note. Just had a call from my cousin asking me where Gabe was today. I told her I had no clue, not my job to know. He left before I left this morning. She had just seen him at a fast food place in town and decided to follow him. He is at the broom's place and took food in to her. Yeah, ok, whatever. So, apparently they are together still and he is playing me for free room and board? No idea. At least he's been working around the house and being with Marc. I don't care what he's doing in his personal life really, I just wish I was clued in. C'est la Vie!


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!