The real issue is his separating of himself physically (sexually) and emotionally (heart) from me. How can he have such a good time with me/us, enjoy himself, look forward to events, and keep that part of "us" that makes "us" "us" absent? I don't get it. We used to go away every anniversary overnight for the weekend... used to go a few times a year, at least overnight for a day or two... used to do out together on "dates." His life now is being w/me because I am w/the kids (it appears), but HE ENJOYS HIMSELF! He's not sitting there mad at me, not complaining about me... He smiles, laughs, asks me to help him w/stories, asks me to recall a funny memory, etc...
straight up and to the point.....and if you let this put you on the coaster then I'll personally come and kick your azzzz..
he will not be physical/emotional with you because 1. he is unsure where this is going...2. he is not ready..3. he senses when you try to control things and move them towards intimacy and he pulls back when you do...
those three things he does so if he decides that he is truly done then he can look back and justify in his mind that he never gave you any hope...and if he quits you will throw that at him..that he gave you hope by staying..
in other words he is "playing nice" he is only partially in the M..he also puts on a public show that nothing is wrong with the M by going out with you, doing with you and the kids..etc..
just about all WAS's do it IMO..they go through this stage...
it is your job to do as you have been doing, avoid backslides....make yourself happy because he can't make you happy now...nor ever..
now you should get it...
carry on...
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 05/27/0902:39 PM.
