[Rob1231]

I have soooo much happening right now that traveling the path of least resistance in my marriage is the best option.
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My w has an affair and then thinks that was in the past and now we are back to "normal"
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I am hoping to find the time to get some things resolved in my marriage before the trip to give my wife something to think about while we are gone. When we get back I will have two more weeks of work and then will be starting a new chapter in my life. I want to start it fresh with NO excess baggage left over from this chapter.

Hi Doc, Certainly do give yourself some "time off" from the R stuff, nobody can keep at it full steam 110% for months on end without imploding.

But you are right, you don't want to go back to "normal" - if that means the way things were before. Regardless of who walked and who didn't, neither of you was really happy back then. Aim much higher than that for the future of your R, and expect much more from yourself and from W (realizing of course, that it may take a while to get there). You are on the right path, keep on keepin' on.