PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi Kev,

Thanks very much for your encouragement. You put it quite succintly. Yes, they feel hard done by, exactly!

They are just now, for the first time, experiencing the consequences of my H's actions.

I have hosted MIL last X'Mas, gave her and my H all the access, no inconvenience, no tantrums, all their needs taken care of.

Well now, I am ready to take care of myself, that's why the title of this thread is 'New Life for #1'.

It might not come out of a good place because I am feeling a bit of revenge. But I feel that they have also contributed to the breakdown of my M because they never encouraged H to spend more time with our children. MIL always asked H about his work, not his family life. So he always think his work is more of a priority.

So now, everyone thinks this way. And why does everyone think H's happiness is more important than mine or my kids' anyway?

Why do we have to please him and make sure HE is happy anyway? He has everything he said he wanted last year. His own life, space (meaning no opposition to having OW), his own apartment, he can work all he want and come back to see the kids at his own schedule. No fuss, no muss.

Well, time for things to change. I am starting to put me first and I feel a heavy burden lifting.

So in answer to your question Kev, yes, I do feel a little better.

My D7 have been telling her friends that H has moved out so of course, other parents are asking me about it. And I DON'T HAVE TO LIE. How refreshing! I feel authentic, so easy to tell the truth. RELIEF!