The bottom line is that you want her to come back for the RIGHT REASONS. You want HER to come back because she wants to. She's not going to come back because you called her or txted her. That hasn't been working. She might REACT upset at first. Remember she is CODEPENDENT TOO. She is used to a certain routine/dynamic. You have been ENABLING that DYNAMIC. It's time to break it. If that DYNAMIC was working she would be back right???
I agree with everyone else. Don't initiate calls. Dont reply to txt right way. Wait an hour or so. If you keep on enabling her CAKE-EATING then she will never miss you. I know it's hard. It seems like it's the opposite of what you should be doing. Just because she says that you neglecting her was way she left. Blah blah!!! She still is the one that left. She is just trying to JUSTIFY her decisions. YOU KNOW THIS ALREADY!!! DONT BELIEVE ANYTHING THEY SAY!!!! She is CONFUSED. STOP REACTING TO HER REACTIONS!!! And Last but not least, my favorite YOU CANT RATIONALIZE WITH IRRATIONAL PEOPLE. WAS's are NOT BEING RATIONAL SO STOP TRYING TO RATIONALIZE. Just detach and GAL/PMA.
