I dont really believe in GALing, I believe in SURVIVING
and not everyone has the ability or funds to GAL. they may be in situations they cannot GAL.
but they can still move on in other ways, by choosing to work on themselves thru reading and learning (may i recommend the dalai lama) doing quiet hobbies at home, or spending time doing something involved but very isolated, like lego, scaletrix, building blocks. at first i think its imporant not so much to GAL, outside, but to just learn some nice techniques at home to detach - times when you cant think of your sitch. it could be crotcheting. it could be building a train track. it could be reading the bible. or bible study. it doesnt necessarly mean 'get out of your house and pretend to be gay" when your totally NOT feeling at all gay.
I also think a pet helps. I know a lot will go 'what?' but ive seen it. divorce pets can do wonders. you might have hated dogs your entire life. try one in divorce. amazing.
the main trick is to shift the focus, and if your not overly social, it doesnt have to be getting out into clubs or such or joiing a gym. it could mean cuddling a new puppy watching CSI.
the point is to gradually learn you can be alone. and live. and will continue to LIVE.
When you're down to nothing, God is up to something.
