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[ernest88]

I'm reading along...

All this is very interesting to me..

Mish..you're one hell of a woman...

doing what you are now doing...will be harder than you can imagine...I hope and pray that you can and will have tremendous strength and not lose what you have become...

[mishka422]

What do you mean by interesting Mike? Is that interesting as in......sick and twisted? If so, then you got that right!

Thank you for your faith in me coming through all of this. Your VOR keeps me nicely in check. I was starting to feel myself slipping today and your reminder to not lose what I ahve become was very timely. THANKS!

[ernest88]

first off Mish..please don't offended or take this the wrong way..


well TBH..I find it interesting that Gabe has sort of gotten what he was after in a round about way...he has found his soft spot to land IMO...

I also find it interesting in the way break-ups, D's work out after all is said and done...I find it interesting the way women handle these things VS. men...

it seems women are much more likely to always have the door cracked slightly vs. men..it seems that when most men are done(me, Kerry and a few more here....Kerry if I am out of line mentioning your name here then smack me up side da head)that we just totally shut the door....I guess that makes me wonder if i was truly in love with Kim..or if I even know what it is...or if that's just some Mars/Venus thing....

I guess i find it interesting that Gabe is back in the same house...and a couple of other sitches I find interesting...that's all...

I guess I just wonder how it all might play out..

[mishka422]

Ok, I get it. Not offended at all.

You are right in a sense Mike. I think women are just more open in general. Total Mars/Venus thing. Unless there was outright abuse then is there any reason to be shut down to the father of my child? IMO, no. I told him yesterday that I thought it would just be ridiculous to not be friends after so many years together. He knows that there is nothing more than that and we're both good with that. In the end, the only thing that matters to me is that Marc has both his parents accessible to him.

How will it play out? Good question....stay tuned. How do I hope it will? I hope he will find a job, find a place to live, and get a life for himself while maintaining his R with his son. One can always hope, right?

[ernest88]

I think women are just more open in general.

I guess it all depends on the definition of "open"

I told him yesterday that I thought it would just be ridiculous to not be friends after so many years together.

and the definition of "friends"

In the end, the only thing that matters to me is that Marc has both his parents accessible to him.

i get the accessible statement

I guess I went from M, separated in the same house, D'd...then to a strictly "co parenting" R with Kim...for the simple fact that i no longer cared for her drama..I mean I do not desire a friendship with Kim...first off.... a friend would never do what Kim did, or what Gabe did or what DH did, or what Dan did..IMO...I guess I look in here on this place in general and try to understand some of what I see and read but in the end I don't really get it...

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Oh I so knew that my sitch was coming into this discussion when I saw Mike's post earlier.

I really do think that women handle S and D much different than men do. I don't think it is a matter of right or wrong, but what we can handle and what God gives us the strength to get through. While I know that Mish's sitch is odd, to say the least, but if it is not making her crazy and Marc is happy, then I will support her, as I hope she would do for me in a similar situation.

Maybe that's why no one posts to me anymore. Heck, there are some days that I wonder why God is leading me this way. But, he is God and I'm not and He knows what is best.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[ernest88]

Sorry you are offended Laura...I guess i took liberties in using DH in this thread..sorry about that..I can have that removed if you like??

I really do think that women handle S and D much different than men do. I don't think it is a matter of right or wrong, but what we can handle and what God gives us the strength to get through.

so with this...I take it that you mean that God never gave me the strength to get through my sitch??? or maybe God revealed to me that I needed to get out...

and are you saying that by me asking Mish questions that I am not offering support???

Maybe that's why no one posts to me anymore.

I read you laura...after our many discussions and knowing the path you are on I don't have anything to offer....

and I have no problems with your faith or your beliefs....I beleive I was led too...by God...

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

No, I am not offended. I just had a feeling that my sitch would come up, as many do not get it. Heck, I spent over an hour on the phone with my SIL this morning as she tries to make sense of it.

In your case, God had to get you out of a bad situation--Kim was mentally damaging to you and her and it was starting to spill over into interactions with Caleigh. Was the divorce the final answer? I don't know. That is for you and God to discuss at a later date. I do know that I am happy that you have found happiness with your GF (I won't post her name to protect the innocent .

No, I do not think you are not offering her support, I think your questions are good ones. I just wanted Mish to know that I am here for her, no matter what.

I do not post so much anymore. I post to others, but not about my sitch so much. I know that many do not understand it and that is okay. the people that do are ones I have phone numbers for and we spend our time talking on the phone, rather than posting here. Thank goodness for unlimited long distance!

BTW, you still owe me surf fishing lessons.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[ernest88]

Well. I believe I get your sitch...I believe i get what your doing..and I know that you have faith that your M will be restored..

I have no idea if God led me out or not...I was never spoken too per say..by a voice, or dreams..my heart said to let it go so i did...I truly let it go..

I found "happy" myself..Michele can never make my happiness and I don't rely on that from her..I truly believe only I can make me happy...I don't look for my happiness from others..not family, not women, not friends..

I still fail to see the "friendship" thing that people say can happen after a D is final...like I said it all depends on the definition of "friend".....

anytime on the surf fishing..

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

You are right--happy comes from within us. I have found Happy. I don't need my DH to be happy, he just adds another level to it. My strength, my happiness, my joy, comes from my faith that God works things out to the good for His children. Allowing him control and not fighting for it for myself brought me more peace than I have had in years.

I may be heading to the OBX next month for a weekend. When I have some concrete dates I will let you know. I'd like to meet you for a beer and buy that pretty lady a fruity drink for putting up with your redneck butt.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW