The adventure continues--the saga goes on

[AFWAW]

Have you had the time to sit and really think about what you want to do?

I have. I have a plan ready to execute in the event this ends in divorce. The wife won't like it very much because it involves my leaving the area fairly quickly but oh well, she is choosing this.

The shock of this happening so fast after your return from Iraq should have worn off by now...not that it hurts any less. Often it is human nature to want what we cannot have.

Yeah, I think the shock is finally starting to wear off. It still hurts but at least I'm functioning a little better.
And you're right, I do want something I can't have at this point but it was mine and I want it again to do better.

Many men and women find it hard to get over this and spend years being miserable before admitting this and divorcing...the only thing worse than doing this at 39 is doing it again at 49.

I thought about this too. I wasn't miserable and I don't think for a second that she was either. If she truly was miserable, the why is she calling me, why is having all these reservations about actually following through w/ the divorce, etc?

Something to think about...again, exposure and filing for divorce is not about punishment. You have a moral obligation to protect your daughter and your wife.

I spoke w/ my friend last night. He made contact w/ his source and said he should have a name and type of vehicle the OM drives in a matter of days. I will then verify if OM is visiting the wife. I'll do a couple of drivebys during the week.

Hoop,
I'm not discounting anything you say. I'm still hoping for the miracle in my life though. Your advice has kept me focused and given me different things to think about when the time is right to execute.