WAW1 - Anticipation2

[markhaving probs]

I have had a terrible day and I think I have wrecked any chance of a reconcilliation in the future.

My W came and dropped the children off for tea, she wasn't wearing her wedding rings. I asked her in for a cup of tea and she accepted which I thought was progress. She looked great and I don't know why but I asked her if she was happy with the progress of the divorce. She answered "definately", I then asked her if she felt she had made the right decision. Again she answered "oh yes I have. I have not missed you since you have been away, and I am looking forward to re-building my life.....". I felt devastated at this and started to feel sick and giddy. I also felt quite angry.

I am due to move back to the family home in June when my W and the children move to her parents house while they on a long holiday. My W asked me to vacate the house on October 5th when they return, but I would still be paying the mortgage on the property until the end of November. I stated I would NOT be leaving the house until the end of November. She has threatened me legally and also used the children again, saying I am selfish and not looking after their needs. I feel as she has no intention of reconcilling I thought I don't care what she thinks anymore.

She stormed out and said she would be back at 8.00pm. My daughter then rang her to ask her something, she was not at the family home, I then spoke to her and for the second time today I said "where are you, at your boyfriends house"? She refused to tell me where she was even though she does not have to, but I am mad at myself and her.

She said if you really want to know what I have been doing - she then told me she had been to London with her toxic friend to a night club recently, stayed over at a hotel etc etc. She then said she was going to another club this Friday, which is nothing to do with me but it is like she is punishing me, and I am punishing myself for asking.

When she arrived to pick up the children, she told me was sick of me prying into her business (twice today alone), accusing her of having a boyfriend which she denied and general smothering her. She said she was happy to come in for a cup of tea earlier, but I had completely ruined it by my accusations. She is now not bringing the children over on Thursday as she does not want more interrogation.

I have completely blown any chance (if I had to start with) of re-establishing a relationship with my stupid actions and words. Any small progress I might have made has been completely blown away. I completely lost my cool because I saw her and I wanted to just hold her but I do not think I ever will again.

I apologised today in a voicemail to her, she TEXTED back saying 'Thanks, and then went on to ask me what my solicitors name was so that she could sort out a Deed of Settlement for next week.

I personally thought under the circumstances that last bit could have waited, but she obviously wants to just get on with it.