Hi I dont know you, but ive read a little, about your friendship with this OW (brief as it was.) unlike some, im gonna give her the benefit of the doubt here and say perhaps she really is a good person who really does wish to be your friend... you say she didnt know he was married... ok. then it makes sense to me that being your friend would be good REVENGE for her hey, so I actually believe that.
thats the only reason you should ditch the friendship... I think she might be, even if UNCONSCIOUSLY, out for a little bite, out for a bit of revenge, on your h. this could defintely be true if she didnt know he was married.... um, that would ENRAGE me. if shes basically NEVER done anyhting like that before and is a good person imagine how you'd feel. FOR SURE you'd be bitter, to be put in the role of bad guy when you never ever once saw yourself there. I think shes trying to make up to you, by telling you all about ex. in her mind, its both revenge on him, and reparation to you.
so fine her motives are probably ok all in all.
but still not healthy at all for you. only bc, it keeps you dwelling him him, and all you two have in common is HIM... omg how he'd LOVE THAT. what an ego trip eh?
if you think shes quite nice and like her enough then be totally honest with her and say that you truly apperciate her efforts and no longer blame her but feel its really unhealthy for you to be friends with her and talking about x. and it is. i bet you feel rotten after your together. enough answer
you sound like a really kind hearted, lovely lady and of course in your mind this woman has done nothing really wrong if she didnt know he was m, but for all YOU know, shes either still stuck on him or AT LEAST fixated on some kind of twisted REVENGE and thats not right now is it.
get away frm her for your own health... she can deal with her own too...
xoxoxo
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