Dawn I do agree with everyone that has posted to me. I do want to clear up that she didnt really have a relationship with my xh. They only went out for 3 weeks or so, on weekends. She had no idea we were still married. After I spoke to her she did stop seeing him but they remained sorta friends, because they work together. We met one day when she came into where I worked and then started talking on the phone. She told me alot of stuff that my xh had said, mostly lies. I then visited her home and met her 2 young kids. She was and has been very nice to me. She is divorced and her xh did her the same way, so we alot to talk about. I do have to admit, it was the hardest thing to do, sitting across from her and knowing my xh slept with her. Everyone says dont blame the ow, so I tried not to, it helped because she was nice to me and understood how I felt. Lately something has changed. I have been thinking alot about what happened with her and my xh. I am not as comfortable as I was in the beginning, which is odd to me, because you think it would be the other way around. I would have thought the more time I spent with her the more comfortable I would become. I think this shows how upset and torn apart I was. I was willing to be friends with a woman that selpt with my h. She works with him and is constantly telling me how he dresses and what he says and does at work. Even if I dont ask, she still tells me. I personally think this is why I have continued the relationship with her. I dont talk to or see my xh, so she is my connection to him. I have recently decided to cut off my relationship with her. I dont want to upset her, because she does still work with xh and I dont want her to make up lies and carry tales to him that might not be true because she is upset with me, so I am slowly getting away from her. I guess this makes me pretty pathetic doesnt it.
