Divorce looming #13

[25yearsmlc]

no problem --point taken, except you don't me or Kev and we've been posting privately and publicly the whole time he's been on this site. The whole time.

I'm doing my best as I'm sure you are. But again, you don't know me. Kev says I help him and he asks ME to keep posting to him, and he's asked me that again, both privately and publicly. Read the whole thread before you judge. (as in all 13 of them plus the others).
Or just say positive things of your own, and support him in your own way.

(( j ))

[K4D]

Thanks wifey. I appreciate what you are saying. But if you know my stitch from the beginning, 25 has been absolutely wonderful for me. I have needed the hard 2x4s that she and everyone gives me. I wouldn't trade anything that 25 has said to me or told me. It has been exactly what I needed. And yes I have asked her privately to please keep posting to me.

I will definitely defend 25 and everyone else that has posted 2x4s on here to me. They have stuck with me as frusturating as I have been at times. I am starting to come along though now that I am in my own place. It may not seem like it at times, but I am.

Tomorrow night I am going to a church group. Thursday night I am having dinner with a friend I made. Friday night and Saturday night I am doing some Dallas singles group things on meetup.com Sunday morning I will be at church and in class meeting people instead of just going to the assembly only. Sunday night I get my kids back for the week. Saturday morning I will get my oil changed in my car. Saturday afternoon my W is giving me the kids to spend the afternoon with. I will probably take them to a natatorium. I am keeping my time filled and trying to make new friends and try new things.

Tonite I enjoyed D11's talent show. After I went to a senior ministers house for a bit and talked and hung out. Now I am back at home watching the Rangers play the new york yankees on TV.

Tomorrow its back to work and more learning. And I am learning. I think I was just really tired today from not sleeping most of the night. Being my first night in my place without the girls was hard. It felt really empty here. So I guess that and my thoughts just affected my sleep. Hopefully tonite will be different.

Kevin

[25yearsmlc]

Kev, (thanks for watching my back)

I'm liking how the Kevin calendar is getting filled. Sure, some of it seems mundane like getting the oil change may sound that way. But for me as a woman, taking care of the cars sort of felt empowering AND did get me out and talking. I also felt like I was only counting on ME for making sure the car was working. And I came to know I could count on ME, so h would not disappoint and forget to do it. Know what I mean? This way, when you do something she usually did, like maybe preparing meals in advance (??) or whatever, you'll have it covered. And you'll feel "done" with that part and no way can SHE let you down b/c you took care of it. (Ever think of taking a cooking class? My dad became a chef after he retired from being a lawyer. He also taught others how to cook. Mostly ethnic dishes but he got really good and a little famous for it. Lots of couples met in his class and the men said it helped their social lives b/c their dates loved it when they cooked for them. AND The guys who were single and not dating, (some of whom were widowers or just lonely) said that eating their own well made food, made them feel like they were treating themselves to something healthy AND taking better care of themselves and their kids. Yes, you probably WILL meet women but that's another story for LATER on when you feel ready. I can see how it'd save you money AND feel good too.

But learning to like the everyday things, checking off the "boring or mundane" things may seem odd but It's a healthy thing Kevin. And you're also starting to do small but fun things like the game watching. For me it was certain chick flicks...I liked not having h around to stare at me like it was a waste of time OR like I should have done the film myself, etc.

Finding yourself, and the positives in your sitch, Starts out in small ways but you find things YOU like and feel good about. I also liked not having the toilet seat left up, but like I said, it starts out in small ways....

You will get there. Keep the focus on your faith, your girls, yourself, and YOUR future...WATCH FOR THE BACKSLIDES KEVIN, AND STOP THEM IN THEIR TRACKS...LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR YOU TO SPEND TIME CATCHING UP SO MUCH.
So, Be in the now, fully present IN the present and enjoy the NOW. No worries...you are doing what you can DO to create a good life for you and your girls so you can leave the results up to God. And if and when those fears start slipping in, kick them out!! And then RE-invite God back in to handle it all.

((( j ))))