So I just got off the phone with ex....ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!
Phone call started off (her drinking) about how I am screwing up by letting my daughter fall asleep on couch, not practicing piano and turning daughter against her.....Blah Blah Blah....
SO in the interest of DBing I told her stop calling me and telling me what you want. Then I went into the whole "you had an affair on me and left me for another guy"... you don't have the right to call me and tell me anything.
She said it was all my fault because I worked shift work all my life and screwed her life up.
I said yeah..heard that a hundred times and never once did you come to me and say I am hurting... all you did was come and say you wanted a divorce and then make reservations to sleep with come guy.
Then we went back and forth about my daughter and why she thinks my wife is not as nice a dad. It is because I am pampering her. What a &*^%^%%!!!!!
So I tell her that one reason is she doesn't take any trips with daughter but her boyfriend flys her around like a common ^&*** and the only way she able to do that is by divorcing me so she can get away form her daughter and have a romantic weekend with some other guy.
She accused me of telling my daughter that she is taking these trips. I respond "oh and you don't think you bringing her a shirt back from New Orleans makes her think you went to New Orleans Sherlock???? and then I added "bet that jerk your sleeping with helped you pick it out, the whole time telling you how much he wants to meet your daughter and what a great mom you are" ARGH!!!
She responded with I abused her for 15 years but she really did love me when we got married. Me, "but that didn't stop you from telling me that you realized you were setting for me and sleeping with the first guy with money that paid attention to you.
Then we moved on to the fact that she is allowed to have romantic weekends by having her ex husband watch her daughter...&^* Her response was that for eight years i never tried to ask anyone to watch our daughter so we could go away for a weekend. I asked her when did she? She reponded with one time (in 8 years) So she beat me 1 to 0.... guess I sucked as a husband.
I can't stand this woman. She eventually hung up on me.
Now I am wondering if I will end up battling fo custody of my daughter. I know she loves my daughter but she is so damn selfish she can't even see herself in the mirror.
I would say our R is over and that's okay with me. The thing is i feel bad for the way the conversation went. don't want to be around this person but still feel bad.
why is it that they betray you but then think you would still want to remain friends with them.
probablly don't deserve to be on these boards with everyone. I knew that once I decided to drop the rope i would not like this person that I married 16 years ago....
