I think your reply sounds good but in my case my lawyer said not to agree to anything with your H until you talk to your lawyer. My H got pretty hateful with me, one reason he knew that I had found out about OW, he tried to hide all of that, it sounds like your H is not hiding. Something I did one night when my H cussed me out, I had a tape recorder under my shirt, he didn't know that I got him cussing me out. The next day I called my L & he called my H's L & 3 days later he came & apolozied for it but it was too late, I had already given my L the recording.
I know that is something that cannot be used in court but if it had gone to court the judge would not have liked that at all, knowing how upset my H got with me & then him finding out that I had him, he finally agreed to my terms in medation. Not willingly, I know his L was on my side also & the mediator was on my side too. They all knew he had done me wrong. It took 9 hours of mediation, that day alone cost over 9000.00, my H had to pay for it too.
Just be very careful as to what you say when you meet with your H, I know that is the hardest thing b/c my H & I were so close that for me not to say something or tell him something was unheard of. But he is not the person you M right now. I knew 6 weeks about OW before my H knew I knew. I kept it from him & he was in the same house with me, that was hard when he was telling me what all I had done, none of which made any sense & also when I asked him about OW he said "there is no one & I'm tired of you accussing me". I didn't say a word. So, you have to choose your words wisely when you speak with him & do not sign anything without your lawyers approval!
I'm so sorry you are having to go thru this!!
I'm thinking about you!!!
(((HUGS)))
By the way, we didn't have terms agreed to before our mediation.
