My C had me do that exercise right after the bomb and then again recently. She was surprised at how little my answers had changed and how little the bad events actually directly involved DH. She figured that the distance from the bomb and my self-growth would have showed substantial changes in my perception. So, she asked did I mind if she talked to my mom and was surprised to find out that my perceptions had been dead on. It kind of much sucks when you realize that you had the fairy tale and Prince Charming turned into a frog.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
Well, my kids are going to be traumatized if I don't get off the computer soon so I'll do the exercise later. I will say that my friends and family pretty much see H as a braggart and a narcissist while his friends and some family (not all) see me as a high maintenance shrew. Come to think of it, it is mostly his "Euro-weenie" friends that think that about me. Some of his friends wonder how I could put up with him. Hmmm....
