Yes, I guess I view wearing our rings as a sign that is telling everyone that we are right now. You know my parents notice whether we do or do not wear them, and I KNOW that seeing us wearing them tells them "oh good it's all ok now". I guess I feel like we kept our problems to ourselves so long that when we finally let the cat out of the bag (sorry (cat 1) and (kitten 2)), that everyone was shocked. So, maybe I just don't want everyone to be shocked again. And I know it was all innocent and exciting, but telling the girls that we have our rings on again, just gets their hopes up and I don't want to do that. I mean I don't want to walk around making them think the sky is falling, but neither do I want them to let their guard down, just to shock them in the future if that is what we decide. When we said "no expectations", I assumed stuff like this would fall into that category.
(Wife)
I responded:
I can understand that, but I"m still confused. On the one hand, you say you simply forget, but then you say you feel the below and that it's a conscious decision not to wear them, because you don't want to get everyone's hopes up.
I guess it's a personal decision we each have to make. I just wanted you to know how I felt.
(Puppy)
See, I know her. I'm not saying this isn't difficult, but c'mon, can we at least be HONEST with each other??
