Honey, be as low-key as you can right now. Don't react with extreme enthusiasm to his suggestion of moving in together yet. Don't assume things are resolving just yet.
I am not trying to discourage you at all. Just recognize that you saw the flutter of a butterfly. This is not a short road. Pace yourself for the marathon.
Coach is right on with the validating. Also, when you are told something you did wrong, it will be counter-intuitive, but don't defend yourself. As Coach said, I can see why what I did/said made you feel that way. If you fight them it only makes what they are choosing to do more right in their mind.
As for talking to him at the get together, might I suggest you try, "I can tell this isn't a good time right now to talk. Perhaps we can talk tomorrow about S." He was out having a good time and it only sounded like pursuing and guilt laying. YES you should be able to talk to him about S, but you have to be mindful of the timing.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
