Is my H in MLC

[peacetoday]

Hi
sorry you find yourself here but it is a good place to come for support and information
your H is about the right age for MLC
many mlcers do not leave immediately..they waffle back and forth testing the new waters (OW) while sitting on the fence art home
my XH stayed 4 months after bomb
many others stay longer
some leave immediately
it is recommennded to do NO R talks
probably nothing has changed within their mind since last talk
if it is MLC it will take a very long time
books are helpful
jim conway or sally conway wrote a few books on mlc
therapy is helpful especially for LBS
it wont usually help to tell the mlcwer he is in crises
they cant see it
most of us have probably tried in the beginning but it doesnt help
nothing much of anything helps
to turn most of them around
it is a crises and they have to go it aslone
many of them think the problems lie in the M and not in themselves so they go hoping to find utopia
many of them become self destructive and pick OW who may be destructive as well
they blow thru lots of money
they become opposite of who they were
they lie constantly
they drink/use drugs
so
be aware you many not see these signs for a while
I didnt realize my XH had secret creit cards and was blowing our business into th grouns
he was a rational man dedicayted to us before MLC
so protect your assets
and strap on
its quite a ride
pain- growth- grief- letting go- transformation
peace