Remember the first time you mentioned this I was shocked? My red flags went up immediately with that one. I cant believe that woman but my perception of things wont do you any good so you better listen closely to what 25years has to say because people ruled by anger will go off limits at any moment. You probably feel that no judge or court will buy something like that but please dont leave anything to luck. I suppose you do keep log of her actions and names of people witnessing her crazy bahavior. Maybe the fact she is going nuts in front of people can be used for you in the long term.
You know I have no clue about your system so my advice is worth nothing... I am sorry for all the insanity you have to live. Take care, I wish you all the strength of the world. xxx K
oh exactly frank....exactly... you think no reasonable person would believe her, but I've had jaw dropping moments and they were in cases like this. The ONE time I ever cried in court, (and my client saw the tears welling up and he comforted ME), was like this one. I was stunned. Yes I appealed and won. So what? TWO YEARS LATER....
Please be careful and tell your L ALL OF THIS STUFF....(the SATAN remark must be noted) note NOW any irrational things that she does and says and ALL the vindictive stuff b/c THAT will help you show that you saw her acting weird BEFORE any accusations/allegations come up. I'd have NO unwitnessed conversations with her if she's weird at all and be very wary of any sexual moves on her part as well. God Knows what she'll say Frank.
I would not be shocked if she physically comes on to you and then claims rape OR if she attacks you and says you hit her. Either would be equally UNsurprising to me...
"sorry honey but dat's how I sees it dees days" (movie clip...never mind....)
major hugs
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Frank, I dont even know what to say. I am sorry that you are going through this, that your children are going through it, too.
As a mother, I just cannot fathom purposefully damaging my child emotionally. I cannot imagine hurting them by belittling their father.
Every action I take, every word I say, is done with careful consideration of the impact it could have on my son and his relationship with his father - and he is 18!
How dare she ruin their innocent childhood like this.
Frank, please leave no stone unturned in trying to find a way to have her leave. She is causing untold damage to everyone's lives.
I am thinking of you, my friend and praying hard. Walk away, turn away, do not engage with her.
"As a mother, I just cannot fathom purposefully damaging my child emotionally. I cannot imagine hurting them by belittling their father."
It happens all the time. Often it takes a lifetime (if at all) for the little ones to grow up and figure it out. My hunch is that it's the fathers who really love and fight for their kids that usually get subjected to this.
As a mother, I just cannot fathom purposefully damaging my child emotionally. I cannot imagine hurting them by belittling their father.
Sadly, there even occurs violence in divorce cases involving children. Just the other day in my area, a lady threw her kids off a bridge into the river - the 4 year old boy drowned and the 7 year old girl was rescued. The mother was going through a divorce and had only limited visitation. I cannot fathom what goes through a persons mind to do such a horrible thing...
I know these things occur, I just cannot wrap my mind around it.
It would be so much easier for me to tell my son all the terrible things his father has done. It is far more difficult to keep it all to myself. But, I feel it is extremely important for my son to maintain a loving relationship with his father at this time. I do not want the responsibility of breaking that bond.
I just dont understand parents who knowingly hurt their children, who cause them pain and add to their heartache at this difficult time. This is between the two adults. I choose to behave in a way that causes the least amount of destruction to my son. His father, by his actions, has caused enough disruption to his life. I will not add to it.
HELP!!! To all my friends...I"ve never needed advice more than I do now...PLEASE.
This Friday is my son's Little League day at the new Citifield (Mets). Several weeks ago, by text, my STBXW told me that she was going....told me to pay for S8 and she would pay for D6. I am the assistant coach for my son and we are going to go on the field together for the national anthem. It is a wonderful father son event. My STBXW purchased five tix, so, she may be bringing her father and brothers as a strong arm maneuver....guessing.
The day happens to be on my half day Friday, which, I have often told her I would take and she would take the opposite Friday. Tonite....my W told me that she is taking him.....one of the most hurtful things she has pulled so far.
I got coverage for my practice....I told my son I would be taking him...we are to go on the field together..and now...she threatens to destroy the evening for me and possible use 'a show of force' (this doesn't scare me..it's the hurt in front of the children).
I am going to call my atty tomorrow.
Thoughts?
Help....I don't think there are any motions for this...are there?
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, first things first. You remember Tyson (tiara Boy/confused mess)? He used his threads as documentation for court when he got his kids away from their mom. Make sure you are printing out all of this documentation and keeping a file of her actions.
As far as the game goes, do you have Friday off? Take your son out... all day if necessary and then take him to that game. There comes a point where you stop letting her do the strong arm crap and simply do what you need to do. Her insane behaviors at this point seem as though it would be enough for a judge to deal with her already. Do you have a guardian ad lidem for the kids? If not, get one now.
Her behaviors in front of the kids would be classified as harmful and dangerous for your children. Then satan comment put sit over the top. Get a Guardian involved and get your kids protected from hearing anymore nonsense.
Reality check time. She is pulling this crap to get you to quit. She wants you to get frustrated and move out. She wants you to "break" and she obviously will go to any lengths to get you to. It may be time to get her evaluated psychologically. Get the Guardian Ad Lidem in place and see what their thoughts are about it.
Bottom line at this point is that she is now doing mental damage to your children and you need to take a stance and stop this. Do whatever you have to do to protect them. If your still up tonight and need to talk...holler.....
