Start with you are HERE = that says what you hope for = a reconciliation. Things need to progress in that direction = over on my post I posted goals and progress. I was taught to do that when I first arrived here so that I could tell to what was happening, what worked and what didn't work. Seemed simple, but it helps me to stay on track.
There have been many times that I wanted to quit and move forward because I was tired, frustrated, or angry. It didn't matter the reason, but my father had a saying that I live by = he said that nothing is a mistake if you learn from it. It helps me to not feel so useless or having wasted time.
Give the goals another try, list what has changed during your S and what needs to grow/heal. My best guess about the "bombs" is that either the communication is missing or there is some other disconnect between you and your W. Anyway, you can be consistent even if she isn't. From my experience, going with the changeableness of moods or motives doesn't work.
What do you lose if you try? What do you lose if you don't try?
