As long as we are really being honest with each other, I have to confess that sometimes I do think we were premature in putting our rings back on and pretending like everything is perfect when in fact it is not. Sometimes I feel bad because I feel like once again we gave the signal to the kids that everything is fine with us. Maybe subconciously that is why I don't remember to put my rings on. I just feel like, yes, we are married and I haven't forgotten that, but I don't want to send mixed signals to the family into thinking "oh how nice they have their rings on again, everything must be peachy now between them".
So wedding rings to her are like a relationship thermometer or something? I'm sorry, but I think that's weird. And she doesn't want to send mixed signals to your kids??? How thoughtful of her. And if married people just wore them when everything was perfect, I don't think there'd be anybody wearing wedding rings!
Ok, to be positive I do think that everyone can change, look at me and how I've changed, and others here too. I do think if you're willing, I kind of hit bottom and realized what I was doing in my life wasn't working for me, and with God's help you can change. So I do think you need to be patient and allow your wife and the IC time. I do think though, I don't know about all the NPD or whatever, but she does seem immature. Karen
Karen, for the record, I think she's immature too, at least sexually/relationally. But in fairness to her, I think what she's saying regarding the rings is that we've been "on again/off again" and back, no less than FOUR or FIVE TIMES, and she's got our kids and her parents looking at her (us) HORRIFIED that we might divorce. I think we BOTH feel like we've yanked some loved ones around on a chain and back, and it's embarrassing. Hell, I'm embarrassed at how many times on HERE that I've posted "we're getting back together -- no no, wait! we're divorcing!"
