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What was some the things you did (or lack of) that pushed him away. This is where you target your 180's at. If he is WA because he felt you have always neglected him ... that you no longer care for him, then you need to change that perspective.



I neglected him, pushed him away, didn't show him enough affection, work was more important, I was emotionally shut down from him and really didn't care what he did. We are also fighting a lot and a lot of mean things were said.

I'm just overwhelmed right now with the whole situation. If you read my posts recently I go back and forth, back and forth...maybe I'm trying too hard. I think he sees the changes, but a little too late..I don't know.

H doesn't like confrontation even if he did want out of where he's currently at with OW, it's going to be really hard for to tell OW he's leaving. He's in a comfortable spot right now, but then so am I so I should just put the focus on me.

The dinner thing is my next action item not just for H but for me, also. I would like to cook more and eat out less.

H called to let me know he might not be able to see son tonight, his crane is being moved to his new job site. He said he'd try, but didn't think it would be till closer to six. I'm thinking of letting him off the hook for tonight, meaning I would see if my SIL could watch son. I have dinner plans with gf's. The reason that I would let him off is because where he's living now is closer to his new job, to come over would be a lot farther especially if it is going to be later. Maybe I'm the one more disappointed.

Thank you all for your inspiration and for putting up my mood swings.

Cathy