thanks dburt...can we ever rule out an affair when we don't know what our S is doing? I wouldn't rule it out, but I will say that there is something that I don't know about his guilt...that I think there was a line crossed at some point. My counselor told me about a "guilt tranference"...something he did is making him unable to face me on a daily basis...hence the separation. It is neither here nor there...but I don't suspect a current affair...or an OW. Time will tell the truth.
