deciding what is persuit and what is not is tough once there is an actual seperation and not just thoughts of it or an a ongoing.

stoping by and bringing him lunch while he's at work...may work but then it also may apear as too little too late.

have you been doing the things you listed?
how has he reacted to them?
have they brought the two of you closer or pushed you further apart?

I think that starting with dinner as a family is a wonderful safe idea.

LL