Mother's Day Disaster

[ACJ]

Thanks TL. It isn't so much the making friends it is keeping them.

It's official my H has completely lost the plot!

Tonight when I got home from work I had a pleasant surprise in that D13 was here. She had been out all day with her friends, got cold, decided to come home for some warmer clothes and then decided to wait to see me when I got in from work.

She told me that H sat her and S16 down this morning and explained about his 'plans' for thier summer holiday. Kids get 6weeks off in the summer here in the UK and he told them that if they wanted to he and OW had arranged it so that they could go to Czech Republic, stay with OWs parents, for a WHOLE MONTH so that they could experience the culture. Apparently OWs parents own a factory and he said kids could go work there and earn some money! and the best bit? They get to go alone; w/o H & OW

W H A T T H E F * * K!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

S16 has met OWs parents once, D13 has never met them. H doesn't think it is necessary to involve me in this decision!

So first he thinks he has the god given right to dictate to me when I can and can't see my own kids by dictating D13's 'rota' to me. Now he thinks he can expect me to give up two of those weeks in order to send my children to stay with people who are essentially strangers. To put the icing on the cake he thinks I will be happy for them to go and work in factory in a country where it's own people are leaving in droves b/c living and working conditions are so bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The one (v small) saving grace is that D13 and S16 both said that a month is too long!!!!!!!!! D13 gave me the impression (although didn't say outright) that she didn't want to go at all. I have no legal power to stop S16 going if he so wishes but I sure as hell will exercise every legal right I can muster to fight D13 going.

If H and OW were taking them on holiday that would be a different story (albeit begrudingly) but this feels to me like they are just trying to:

a) Cut thier costs so that they won't have two extra mouths to feed for a month

b) Get cheap child care. Well heeeeeeeeeellllllllllloooooooo motherhood and all it's responsibilities come FRRRRRRRRRREEEEEEEEEE

c) Wind me up. Well hell they achieved one out of three.