Quote: Okay I have to apologize for all my posts/thoughts this morning. I just had another one. Are these pursuing behaviors and things I shouldn't be doing:
Showing up at his job with lunch? persuing Calling him first? persuing Giving him cards, not loving cards, just for fun cards? persuing Calling to just see how his day is going? persuing Making dinner, not just for him, but for us as a family? questionable, is what you are cooking dependant on his being there? but then again is cooking dinner a 180? I believe you've noted that he made some comments about you not cooking.. Asking for his help? depends on what you need help with and if you are asking as a means to stay connected to him and you don't have a way of solving or getting it done on your own or with someone else's help
I would like his advice on some parenting problems I'm having with s3, which I think should be acceptable as I would like to alwasy be able to turn to him for this kind of problem. I see no problem discussing child issues with the other parent...I don't see it as persuit...unless the "issue" is something of little significance and is being "used" as a means to stay connected to the was
I'm thinking of backing off a lot this next week or so and see what happens. I've only talked to him Tuesday night this week when he came over to see son. Other than that he hasn't called and I haven't called him. it wont be easy, but I think it's a great idea...I didn't call my h at all (ok after a while) and suddenly he found excuses to call... Cathy
