LOL - Monday Tuesday whatever! Yeah, the point is I guess is I almost fool myself over the weekends because we spend a lot of time as a family and do the things we always did. I need to change that for my own sake and to force a bit more on her the reality of the changes she wants.
Thanks for the mood boosting tips!
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
Another random question I hope someone can help me with... WAW still is telling friends that I am trying to convince her to stay, which I haven't for weeks. Is this part of her trying to continue to get people on her team to buy in?
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
I would just recommend staying out of her head right now. She doesn't even know what to do herself...she's probably confused and ambivalent, and her moods and thoughts and feelings fluctuate. It'd be pretty hard to try to figure out why they say what they say, and do what they do!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
WAW still is telling friends that I am trying to convince her to stay, which I haven't for weeks. Is this part of her trying to continue to get people on her team to buy in?
That's an easy one! Who effin' cares?
Maybe she's trying to say it out loud often enough that SHE starts believing it. Who fuurrrrrrr-eeeeking cares?
You're on a mission, Double-O 9. You're a spy, man! You got secret stuff to do. Let the WAWskies worry about why they're doing what they're doing. If they're anything like the Russkies, even THEY don't know!
It's all above your paygrade. Your mission is to sniff out THE secret -- Who You Are.
Leave that other stuff to the boffins with the 300-lb brains back at Headquarters. You and me? We're just foot soldiers in the Secret World. Now polish up your tradecraft and get stuck back in!
I screwed up today - I had a password to WAW email account and I forgot to clear my history so she saw I had been in there and looking. On one hand, yes I got evidence of EA with OM, no real smoking gun on PA. But now she knows I know, which means she will not be using an computers at home anymore. Of course she is angry and this will just put fuel on the flames and make her more convinced she can never trust me.
What do I do know? Is it time to contact family/friends and call her out? That just seems like it will completely torch the 1% I have on getting this marriage saved. Should I wait things out and see what happens? I am more and more convinced that she is too far gone.
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
Yeah, that was bad tradecraft. But it happens. You move on. What she knows now is that it's going to be harder to play her hand; you let it roll. Wait for the next opportunity.
So hold off on exposing anything to others? Pretend I don't know that she knows? Because she doesn't know I know she knows. Seriously (even though that sounds funny!)
H35 W34 S4 | T-10 yrs M-6 yrs WAW said M over 04/09 | Living separate since 09/09 Thread #1 Thread #2 Thread #3
