FIB, You need to be extremely wary of her every move. This woman seems like an emotional time bomb. Perhaps file something with the court that the situation has gotten intolerable and get an Order to Show Cause for her to move out. I know you are afraid of things dragging on if you do so but it could drag on this way as well and cause you more grief she she accuses you of something or other. It is important to have other people around when interacting with her otherwise be on your cellphone with someone or carry a voice recorder. There is only so far you or any man can go when constantly provoked.