Ok, I see your point on this and I'm basically trying to figure out a way to be more effective in my approach based on what info I have right now. With my daughter in the mix it is more difficult to go dark as there are times when discussions are warranted about her future although not as often as they should be happening.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!