and it really is the best feeling. you might not see the confusion at first, but eventually, you will.
a problem you and i both have....we don't trust our husbands....but the other issue is that they don't trust us. For me, in my situation, I became to hard and stern and demanding...granted I was left at home alone but I'm not sure what happened, I'm not sure if he started leaving me at home first and I started to complain and nag or if I started to complain and nag.....but that was a horrible horrible issue of mine that I'm now working on. It did lead to him wanting to leave....he didn't trust me. He didn't trust me that he could come home and we could be happy, we could relax we could be a family.
Then he went out and did somethings that now I can't trust him.
But if you want to fight for this, you have to be the one to carry the burden here. MWD is very clear about that, you are on your own for now, but your changes can force him to change to--for the better.
If you say "I'm going to get the milk after work" and don't, his trust diminishes. If you say you are going to be home at 9:00pm, get home at 8:59--trust builds.
I know he's the one right now not where he's supposed to be when he's supposed to be there, but start with you.
Also, if you are doing things with expecations for him to react a certain way--forget it now then, he won't, not right away. Takes a long long time.
But, you have to STOP asking questions and stop fighting.
Yeah, you didn't drop the rope, you didn't detach, whatever. I don't think you have to, but you do have to take the pressure off of you and him.
Remember this: If that crap with her ain't over yet, it will be soon.
I wish I could give you my number so we could call before or as we're about to have a nutty spell.....
If you really really want to save this--you have to start RIGHT NOW being the wife a million men would want. Think of the attributes you find sexy and great about yourself and expose them--embellish them--increase them 100% and then some.
You can do this. It's not over. Not at all.