Quote: Another time I said in response to his question, "Why? Do you want to do something with me?"
Good one, I think I will use it next time. He also was the king of NO. Didn't matter what I wanted to do, his first answer was NO. He even does this now. But then would change his mind. It got to the point where if he said no, I'd find someone else to do something with me, but then like clockwork he'd change his mind at the last minute. OR I'd wait around until it was too late to ask somebody else and we'd end up sitting at home. Of course, it was me who never wanted to do anything so he says.
I'm getting to the point where I'm losing interest/hope in saving this marriage. He is not changing nor do I think he can change, why would he want to, he thinks there isn't anything wrong with him. I really don't want him back the way he is or to come back and think he doesn't have to change anything, especially his bad attitude and negative outlook.
When I seem him now I feel so disconnected from him, like we are just neighbors or friends, like I don't know him anymore. I know he's an alien, but there are parts of that alien that have always been there. He's lied to me about things since we first met and maybe I am no better than him. I remember when I first met him he did tell me had been married once before and that he had been seeing someone but "it just ended" Well I was at work one day looking through a phone books for a phone # and for fun I thought I'd look up his phone number and low and behold it wasn't just his name it was with another woman. A friend of mine "said oh maybe they just listed it like that sometimes people do that" I said not in that town they don't. Well he had been married to her, but the divorce process had been started...so if he was in the process of divorce, but it hadn't been finalized..did this make me the OW? Also, he said that the only way he would have stopped that divorce was if this woman had moved back here. She had left him and moved back to her home state. Or course, she wouldn't. I do believe in the saying what goes around comes around, so it's come around on me I think. She also had had him arrested because he hit her with a pillow one night which I totally put out of mind.
