Assuming that my mother's intereference didn't destroy all the progress I had made, I get the feeling my w wants to air things out. My gut tells me some time in the next 2 weeks or so, she is going to ask me again, "Are we doing the right thing by getting divorced?" Here is my planned response. Any critiques appreciated:
"No I don't think we are doing the right thing by getting divorced. I recognize that our old marriage is over. We will not and should not go back to the way that we were. But we love each other deeply, and we have a family together, and I think we need to fight for each other. We need to work to create a new marriage with new ways of loving and working together. It won't be easy, but I know it will be worth it. But I can't do it alone. I can only do it with you."
Questions:
Is the reference to family too much of a guilt element (i.e. don't destroy the kids)?
Is it too definitive a statement? Do I need to draw her out more with questions first? ("what do you think? "Are you having second thoughts?")
What should I be worried about at what I assume will be the pivotal moment?
