Quote: I guess I was okay with it the whole time, I just sometimes get resentful that he can come and go as he pleases and has no fulltime resonsibilities to son.
and that is precisley why I suggested you set up a schedule...that way you are BOTH sharing the responsibility and it it not left to h's whim as to when he will be there for HIS son.
but if you are ok with it and that resentment doesn't fester too much then do what you're doing.
for me it wasn't so much that I had plans on the nights that h would come...it was that h would be responsible for the kids on those nights and I was free, I went out plans or no plans, when h arrived I left the house...went to a movie..visited friends, ran errands etc and those nights were a garuntee I knew what they were each week so I could make plans for those nights and get sitters for other nights if an opportunity arose, that way I wasn't telling h where I was going or what I was doing..it was my time to do with what I wanted just as on the nights he didn't come I didn't know where the heck he was...maybe it's different because I don't go to work during the day so that person comming at night to give me a break 2 set nights a week without wich, I would have gone mad. to be honest I kinda miss it sometimes. Don't get me wrong..I can still go out any night I want but it's more of "well it would be helpful if you could get dd to bed first..." plus now I don't always know what time h will get home..where before he always arived by 5.
