One thing that really bothers me. Why hasn't he gotten his stuff out of the house??
Try not to think about it too much. My H has been gone over a year and left most of his "stuff" when he left. He took some clothes (not all), his laptop and special table for it, camera and a few insidentals. After awhile, I went through and packed it up and put it in the garage. You'll make yourself crazy wondering about it. I have considered telling him to take it, but I don't really care and I'm not looking at it.
I think I'd have taken his head off for the comment to your D4. I'm hoping he didn't mean it like it sounded. Doesn't sound to me like he feels very good about himself.
Don't bother telling him that someday someone will want him. I know you're trying to be nice, and nice is good. I think I'd say something more like "I'm sorry you feel that way". Nice, but more neutral.
