One Step Up, Two Steps Back

[Coach]

I understand your points and your W doesn't know how to validate your feelings yet. But do you see how you wanting the rings on makes you look needy to your W? Give her the space to come to you. (I have been so guilty of this as well.) Right now you need to be able to fill your own love buckets. The Guccieasque style was working because you seem confident, strong and in charge. Show her that is really who you are.
She is going to IC for her and your's sake, give her some credit. That is a loving gesture on her part. I understand your desire for her to do things for you because she wants to. That's the essence of validation - I see who you are and want to do something for you because you matter to me. Show her what it means to validate, forgive, trust and truly love. You have to love yourself enougth to let you risk your feelings first. Love your neighbor as yourself. You can handle it.
Cheers