As I have heard, and am learning, fast is slow, and slow is fast. I figured out a while ago that the fastest way through this thing is to take is slow. That was one of the things we (counselor and I) agreed upon.
Journalling has helped a lot - just keeping a written log of what has been happening has been real helpful to see the trends. I look back and see things that I wrote that I had almost forgotten about, even as recent as a month ago.
Anyway, not to let my guard down, and it will still take quite a while, but I'm going to keep up the db'ing.
Tundra777, where is this 5k?
Me: 46 W: 46 M: 9.5 yrs D4, D9 D filed by her 11/3/08 Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09 Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09 W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09 3rd Bomb 9/2/09