As I have heard, and am learning, fast is slow, and slow is fast. I figured out a while ago that the fastest way through this thing is to take is slow. That was one of the things we (counselor and I) agreed upon.

Journalling has helped a lot - just keeping a written log of what has been happening has been real helpful to see the trends. I look back and see things that I wrote that I had almost forgotten about, even as recent as a month ago.

Anyway, not to let my guard down, and it will still take quite a while, but I'm going to keep up the db'ing.

Tundra777, where is this 5k?


Me: 46
W: 46
M: 9.5 yrs
D4, D9
D filed by her 11/3/08
Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09
Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09
W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09
3rd Bomb 9/2/09