Quote: So don't 'corner' your rat...let him run around, tail twisting in the air until he figures out that OW is rat poison...and YOU'RE the cheese.
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You got a laugh out of me on that...what a great way to start my day.
He did call my cell on Monday, didn't leave a message, but it showed his #.
H picked up son last night, H mowed the lawn, I made dinner for us. H didn't say thank you, but that was okay, I felt really good doing it for him. He did bring up the bf thing again, and I said let's make a deal (bad wording I know), rather than you asking me all the time, I'll tell you if/when I do have a bf. His response, let's make a deal?
Quote: This particular spieces of rat considers being asked a direct question or for a commitment (visitation/dinner with the family/attending son's soccer practice/daughter's recital whatever) to be corners they're being squeezed into, but, instead of cowering (because WE'RE the bigger spieces)...they jump at our throat and put us on the defense.
I did ask him what he was doing this weekend and he said, what am I doing this weekend? Why I'm seeing son Thursday night. I wanted to know if he could watch son as I am going to a football game and if he had plans that was fine I would get a babysitter. He didn't say yes or no, but that's him, he does hate committing to anything.
We did have a good night last night. LL asked me if he ever initiated, well he doesn't initiate that often, but he sure does like to put his hands all over my body when he's around.
I do see babysteps from him, you're right I can't corner him about anything. If he does something now, i.e., the party thing, I say to myself, if we are getting D'd then it doesn't matter, if we are getting back together then it doesn't matter either. Maybe that's why I got over that so fast. It was more "poor me" than anything else.
Quote: down into his cheeseless tunnel
He does go down these quite a bit and it's getting old. He like to bring up the fact that I didn't cook enough for him which is something I'm trying to do more of for me and son. It is something I should do more of now that son likes a wider variety of foods. During the summer I don't like to cook a lot because summers are too short around here, but fall and winter I do like to cook. Does anyone here care??? Probably not, but I can say this to H till I'm blue in the face and he wouldn't care.
I think he's seeing the changes now and pretty soon he won't have anymore excuses and I'm also feeling a whole lot better about letting him go.
