Think of your H as a rat and every time you see him scurring away with his long tail whipping back and forth as he runs from you and down into his cheeseless tunnel, remind yourself that he's being a rat and not THE MAN you love and married.
He is currently transformed into another creature. Remember too that rats will only attack you if you corner them.
This particular spieces of rat considers being asked a direct question or for a commitment (visitation/dinner with the family/attending son's soccer practice/daughter's recital whatever) to be corners they're being squeezed into, but, instead of cowering (because WE'RE the bigger spieces)...they jump at our throat and put us on the defense.
So don't 'corner' your rat...let him run around, tail twisting in the air until he figures out that OW is rat poison...and YOU'RE the cheese.
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