What I thought we had in some ways we never did. Dont get me wrong. I'm not in anyway saying it was bad, it just wasn't what I thought. It's like there always had been something missing on a deep level. I noticed this throughout, however I accepted our differences and loved her for who she is. I always felt like I had more invested and a little something was missing, but she was and still is a good person. She just has issues that she never asked for or deserved.
I just saw this and I apologize if it is late, but, I think this is KEY to most of us here. I think we all chose people for whatever need, issue, feeling of love we had...but....I'm not sure we had what WE THOUGHT we had. In looking back...like you...without being bitter...I think there was a huge chasm between my wife and I. Perhaps....as sort of a weird twist to the movie..we were walking on that bridge we saw in Indiana Jones and The Last Crusade...that invisible bridge over the bottomless canyon. We thought we saw a bridge when there was none. Perhaps, we THOUGHT we knew what love was but our perception was wrong.
I've posted on others thread's what David Cunningham once told me...that, at the time, we were functioning with the only tools we had at the time and that this should be looked at as a lesson and not a failure. That if you continue to look back and see this as failure, then you WILL fail.
So, trapt....lift yourself and keep looking forward.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
