Quote: told sis that I didn't want to know about this anymore and why did she tell me at work!!!!
The sad truth is, some people, even unconciously, enjoy the pain of others because they think it spares them feeling that same pain or facing the possibility of that same horror in their own lives.
Avoid ALL conversation about your sitch with friends and relatives...because IF and WHEN you and your H begin to work on reconciling...those 'well meaning' friends will be the first ones there to remind you of the 'bad old days' of your relationship.
Stick to this board and if available a 'real life' friend who ONLY supports your decision to hang tough through this horrific period in your life.
And Cathy remember....LYING is part of the 'illness' it's NOT personal. I know that sounds nuts, but it's the 'truth' they can't help but lie because the truth is a reality THEY can't deal with. T2
