Not a problem, I wish there was that "button" for all of us, unfortunately, there isn't one.
Yes, I know exactly how hard it is, but once you get rolling in a positive direction, you will pick up speed with it. just know, their will be times when you miss a shift in gears, but that is normal.
Also, after having my boys for the weekend and listening to some of their comments, let me share a revelation I JUST made re-reading this thread:
When I was in my down and out days, my boys did not want to spend much time with me (for obvious reason), and would fight over who was "going over my mom's". The more I worked on myself, the more they both wanted to spend more time with me and less with her. Now I'm not saying the goal here is to "win your child's love over and make them think less of the other parent", but rahter, the better off you are, the less your child will miss him.
guess my point is, he doesn't show and hurt or pain, not many WAW's I've heard of do, but you are displaying all these emotions and would you rather be someone who wasn't?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11