Originally Posted By: iamlost


So, given this chance you have: Start over with a clean slate, look at her with fresh eyes. If you look at her/at the sex issue with the mind of a beginner--minus ALL the assumptions that you have about your W--it could be an opportunity for you to lead in a positive way. Perhaps lead her to look at you differently, and perhaps look at herself differently.

What if you woke up tomorrow with some kind of comfortable amnesia--you know where you're mellow and blissed out about forgetting everything--and looked over at your W, and was just like, "Who is this beautiful woman in my house? Look how kind she is to those kids. Who are those kids, anyway? They're cute." ;\) How would you smile at her? How open would you be to her? How do you think she would treat a man that was looking at her like he was truly happy in the moment and had no expectations?


That all SOUNDS good, but I don't think that it's realistic for me at this point. Too much negative shared history, on BOTH of our parts.