Yep it's too much. It sounds like controlling, a lecture, and whining.
It will fall on deaf ears and he will NOT see it as anything positive.
Leave those thoughts as a POST here, leave it all 'unsaid.'
Also, stop taking the bait on the bf questions. He doesn't really care if you are seeing someone...he's hoping you're as messed up as he is...DON'T give him that, he'll use it as further justification for his confused feelings right now.
Just honestly go about your life with your son with NO explanation about ANY of it to him.
You won't score points trying to one up him with hints at your attractiveness to other men. You certainly won't win any points telling him there's a better 'father figure' out there for his son.
Also, DON'T ask him when he's coming to visit S again. He is obviously seeing that as your attempt to control his movement. Let visiting his S be HIS idea...it should be anyway.
